Joyce Lee asked:

If you are ready to change your lifestyle for the better and improve your self esteem, one of the things that can trip you up is trying to figure out how to feel good about yourself when you hate your reflection in the mirror.

It even more discouraging when all the magazines make it look so easy. You can’t help but feel that you are doing something wrong, or worse yet, there is something wrong with you.

Well, I’m here to tell you that there is NOTHING wrong with you. I have personally walked the path of self esteem development and intimately know both sides of the love my body – hate my body image issues.

So relax… lets look at 3 very important self esteem tips that will help you shift your perspective.

1. There is a little girl inside of you that winces every time you are critical of yourself. She feels bad when you tell her she is fat or ugly or that you hate her body.

Think about the little girl inside you when you look in the mirror. Place a picture of yourself when you were young in your bathroom or bedroom where you can see her when you are taking care of your personal needs. Remind yourself that you are still that little girl. Tell yourself the loving words you needed to hear when you were growing up. Promise that little girl/yourself that from this day forward, you intend to improve your relationship with self.

2. Most traditional change methods are built on the concept that you are flawed and need ‘fixing’.

You are NOT flawed; you DO NOT need ‘fixing.’ You are exactly where you are supposed to be at this point of your life. Whatever your challenge…whatever you want to change, your task is to love yourself and be happy while you do it. The Law of Attraction states that you get what you focus on whether you want it or not. Believe me, it is in your best interest to focus on what makes you happy. Create a positive vision of your ideal body image and place a positive order with the universe.

3. We are conditioned to talk about our problems. We whine, complain, bemoan our circumstances automatically.

Again, the Law of Attraction will bring you what you are thinking/feeling/vibrating. Quit talking about your problems. Start talking about and thinking about what makes you happy. So, take some deep breaths… this isn’t rocket science. If you hate your body, it is because of the way you choose to think about yourself. You have absolute control over what you think about. When you change your thoughts and focus, your reality will change and you will develop a healthy body image.

Working harder to change what you hate about your body is NOT the answer. Simply keep pointed towards treating yourself the way you would treat your best friend or the little girl inside you and your body will respond. Be gentle with yourself and unleash the power within.

You are wonderful and deserve to love your body. Your body will love you back with increased health and vitality.

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