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If you are ready to change your lifestyle for the better and improve your self esteem, one of the things that can trip you up is trying to figure out how to feel good about yourself when you hate your reflection in the mirror.

It even more discouraging when all the magazines make it look so easy. You can’t help but feel that you are doing something wrong, or worse yet, there is something wrong with you.

Well, I’m here to tell you that there is NOTHING wrong with you. I have personally walked the path of self esteem development and intimately know both sides of the love my body – hate my body image issues.

So relax… lets look at 3 very important self esteem tips that will help you shift your perspective.

1. There is a little girl inside of you that winces every time you are critical of yourself. She feels bad when you tell her she is fat or ugly or that you hate her body.

Think about the little girl inside you when you look in the mirror. Place a picture of yourself when you were young in your bathroom or bedroom where you can see her when you are taking care of your personal needs. Remind yourself that you are still that little girl. Tell yourself the loving words you needed to hear when you were growing up. Promise that little girl/yourself that from this day forward, you intend to improve your relationship with self.

2. Most traditional change methods are built on the concept that you are flawed and need ‘fixing’.

You are NOT flawed; you DO NOT need ‘fixing.’ You are exactly where you are supposed to be at this point of your life. Whatever your challenge…whatever you want to change, your task is to love yourself and be happy while you do it. The Law of Attraction states that you get what you focus on whether you want it or not. Believe me, it is in your best interest to focus on what makes you happy. Create a positive vision of your ideal body image and place a positive order with the universe.

3. We are conditioned to talk about our problems. We whine, complain, bemoan our circumstances automatically.

Again, the Law of Attraction will bring you what you are thinking/feeling/vibrating. Quit talking about your problems. Start talking about and thinking about what makes you happy. So, take some deep breaths… this isn’t rocket science. If you hate your body, it is because of the way you choose to think about yourself. You have absolute control over what you think about. When you change your thoughts and focus, your reality will change and you will develop a healthy body image.

Working harder to change what you hate about your body is NOT the answer. Simply keep pointed towards treating yourself the way you would treat your best friend or the little girl inside you and your body will respond. Be gentle with yourself and unleash the power within.

You are wonderful and deserve to love your body. Your body will love you back with increased health and vitality.

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Teenagers are characterized by few prominent qualities such as energetic, passionate, and curious. It is pitiful to see them bogged down by low self esteem thus limiting their ability to express those qualities. For certain cases, expressing those qualities are seen as rebellious, harsh, and inconsiderate. No doubt about that. But that is a different story.

We are more interested to address the issue of low self esteem because of the potential damages it could cause, specifically to teenagers, and society at large.

If a teenager suffer inner-imbalance, which often manifest by restlessness, obsessive behaviors; not accepting him or herself, and lost self respect, often time, the damages to self esteem are cumulative, and one fine day, if they become unbearable, the whole suppressed emotions just erupt like Krakatoa. But all these are avoidable.

Here are 3 simple steps teenagers can take to beat low self esteem.

Step 1: Get to the bottom of it.

Low self esteem has it root somewhere. Based on many proven Psychological research, most of the time it can be traced back to childhood, which is just a few years before teen age. And because everything seems like yesterday, identifying and then isolating the prime cause is crucial. There could be hundreds of causes for low self esteem but which one is the main culprit?

This is done based on a simple fact that when the big issue is solved, the smaller one is indirectly solved. It is as simple as that. And this paves the way to…

Step 2: Isolate and take appropriate action.

When this article was written, I imagined a teenager read it. As a teenager, I realized that technical jargon, formality, and concepts steer them away. And I want to avoid that. So, for step number two, after talking to a few teens friend of mine, I decided to include this step.

It is easier just to refer to an authority figure right after you got Step 1 figured out but knowing the spirit of teenagers, I know they want to everything on their own first. After they done trying and stuck, then and only then, they will ask for help.

I agree with their action but not fully agree. I will save the argument for later but for now, for the majority of independent teen spirits, do these:

* Isolate the prime suspect from Step 1.
* Put it under intense interrogation. You do the questioning. See whether it is the real culprit.
* Decide on action plan and just execute it. Erase the memory, seek different experience to offset the low self esteem ‘inducing’ experience, or simply go to Step 3

Step 3: Set up your support system.

Now, support system, at your level, must include these groups of people because no group can be everywhere all the time. But you need constant, never ending support because those painful low self esteem triggers might be lurking just around the corner. And that means anywhere, anytime.

So here they are:

* Parents. I know. They could be the main culprit for your low self esteem. If that is the case, find figures who can take the role of your biological parents. Many successful cases showed that working with non-biological related figures had higher success rate. Give it a shot.
* Siblings. Same goes with this group. Parents and siblings are important to support you when you are at home. If you do not go to boarding school that is because at boarding school, the next group of people are more important, and they are your…
* Peers. And they are important even if you do not go to boarding school. You are most likely to spend more time with them compared to other group so make sure they support your low self esteem beating effort. And in school, there is another important group…
* Teachers/Counselors. But bear in mind, for this particular group, their effort could be easily diluted due to other commitment. They make an important part of your guide and support but do not depend on them entirely. And without leaving the most important part of your support system (I save the best for last)…
* YOU. Yes, you! Out of all people who should take the biggest responsibility to beat low self esteem, I would say, you are that person. Don’t take it too hard. You can easily achieved this by using simple reminder system for example notes in your wallet or purse, notes on your desktop or laptop, and maybe a simple recorded messages on your hand phone.

Remember, it is not,” If I can I will” but it should read,” If I WILL, I can!”

If you will just take the first step to beat low self esteem by identifying the main culprit…

If you will just take the second step to isolate and plan your action to beat low self esteem…

If you will just take the third step to set your support system…

You CAN beat low self esteem. Yes, YOU can.

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