Life from the Heart

Jason Osborn asked:

Meeting new people can be a very scary thing especially if you have a low self esteem. However, if you want to maximize your success in life it is very important to be able to meet new people and know how to network. Once you get good at meeting new people you will love it more than you can imagine.

The first thing you need to realize in regards to meeting new people is that ninety percent of the fear you feel is in your mind. If you can block out that fear you will have won ninety percent of the battle. I know that it is all to easy to let your mind wonder on all the things that could go wrong but you have to learn to not listen to your negative thoughts.

When I first started to overcome my fear of meeting new people, the biggest thing that helped me is when I realized I didn’t have to hold a huge conversation or even have to say too much. The important thing is to just introduce your self and say hi. The more relaxed you are when meeting people the easier it is to introduce your self.

The most important part of meeting new people is actually taking the action necessary to meet them. You can think about how you are going to meet people all day long but until you actually walk up to someone and meet them, you will never meet anyone. The amazing thing about actually meeting people is that once you start the action of it, a lot of your fear will disappear. You just have to step out, make a few mistakes, and then become a pro at it.

Confidence Beyond Belief.

Daegan Smith asked:

Just as willpower is an essential factor in achieving success, at some point in time, discouragement and lack of motivation may hinder you from reaching your goal. And it is up to you, and you alone to devise techniques that will help you keep that drive within ablaze.

It is helpful to have visual goals. Whatever that is you are working towards, make it visual. It maybe something material like a car, or a vacation you have been looking forward to for the longest time. Take or cut out a picture of it and post it at a conspicuous place at work or at home where you can see it often. So that when you feel discouraged, this will remind you of your goal and will help you keep your focus.

Make a contract with oneself. According to motivational researches, people who write down to-do-lists are far more successful in achieving their intended goals than those people who just keep mental lists instead. Putting something in writing somehow makes it more powerful psychologically speaking. This may also be the reason why most cultures have such a high regard in honoring contracts. In the contract, you may also include a certain reward that you will give yourself once you have accomplished the task. After all, everyone likes to be rewarded for completing a good job. Even a simple pat on the back, “good job”, or “thank you” may do the trick to give the person the extra push to carry on, but unfortunately, these may not always be readily available. Considering that these are also essential in keeping oneself motivated, you must learn to find a way to get that encouragement on your own through rewarding yourself.

Abusive people lower your self-esteem and bring you down. Get these negative people out of your life. Surround yourself with positive people. Emulate their example. Smile amply and think happy thoughts. These will give you a brighter outlook and lets you see a clearer picture of what you really want and a fresh mind to know what steps to take to get there. Rather than wait for things to happen, try to be proactive and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. Inactivity idles the brain and stagnates your potential to achieve your goals.

Read inspirational books and literature. These will help you improve your attitude and heal your mind. A book of success stories also proves to be encouraging. You will not only learn from others’ experiences and derive confidence boosting insights from them but the story will be instrumental in motivating you to go for your goal and move ahead with your plans. If this still seems to falter, get training or education. Oftentimes, not knowing how or where to start is frustrating. Knowledge is power. Having a clear understanding of how and where to start is empowering and it will provide the extra drive needed to hit the mark you are aiming at and follow it through.

Having enumerated all these tips and tricks to attaining self-motivation, but still you seem to feel lacking that much needed drive, there is one last thing that you must try. Whatever it is that you have been meaning to do, or wanting to achieve, JUST DO IT! Keep on aiming high and go for it! Actually getting your hands dirty best solves the problem of motivation. By “forcing” yourself to just do it, your momentum will pick up slowly as you go along and before you know it you have finished the task or have finally achieved your goal. Divide and conquer is the key. Break down the seemingly unsurmountable undertaking to small doable steps. Not only does it become less overwhelming, but seeing the “in the meantime” results will further your confidence that it can indeed be done.

Lack of motivation happens to us all, but if you do not encourage yourself to accept opportunities and be challenged, no one else will. It is most important to keep your eye on the goal, find ways to keep going, and in no time, you shall reap its benefits. And if at the beginning you were just doing it for the material reward, you will also learn to realize that the fulfillment, satisfaction and self-achievement you derive from reaching your goal is a much pleasurable high that will keep the drive within continually burning.

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Ronnie Nijmeh asked:

Eating healthy is something that we all know is important to our well-being yet, instead of preparing healthy meals, we stop at the drive-thru or we eat packaged foods or fried foods that are high in saturated fat and carbohydrates.

If we indulged every once in awhile it probably wouldn’t be that big of a deal, but too many of us indulge in these foods all the time and we are paying for it in the way of declining health and weight gain. Poor diet has even been linked to depression, so eating healthy really is important. Healthy affirmations can help your eating habit improve and can lead to a healthy lifestyle starting today!

Health Affirmations Pick up Where Will Power Leaves Off

Will power is not something that you can rely on alone when you are trying to make a positive lifestyle change. Everywhere you go there will be temptations to eat foods that aren’t all that good for you and it can be hard to resist every time. Instead of relying on will power alone, strive to have the support of loved ones or a personal coach. You can also begin using positive affirmations to stay focused on your goals.

Affirmations are statements of your ideal behavior, feeling, response, and actions. You can use these health affirmations as a personal mantra to get you to where you want to be where your diet is concerned.

Your health affirmations could be something as simple as, “When I eat well, I feel well.” Other people need to establish their power over food so something such as, “I have the power to choose the foods that will nourish my body. I am in control of my choices!”

As you can see, these are very straight-forward statements and when you believe in them they give you the power to change your life by making the right dietary choices. You can use your health affirmations as a sort of backup, so if your will power wanes, you’ll still be able to make the right food choices between your support network and your positive affirmations!

The problem that a lot of people have when it comes to eating healthy is that we say to ourselves, “one piece won’t hurt” or “I already messed up today so it doesn’t matter” but these are negative thoughts that actually work against your goal to feed your body the food it needs to nourish and energize you.

When you use positive affirmations, you can avoid temptation and turn negative thoughts or thoughts of defeat into positive ones. When you use free positive affirmations or affirmations that you create yourself, you give yourself power over the temptation that you likely have never had before.

Health affirmations work, so long as you believe in them. When looking for free positive affirmations that you will use, make sure you believe them. If you can say them genuinely, you are more likely to follow through in both thoughts and actions.

Remember that even with affirmations you may not always be perfect, and that’s what your support network is for. With the help of positive affirmations and your loving support system, you have the power to change your life, one food choice at a time.

Developing Intimacy

Trevor Adheen asked:

Why would a sales team need motivating when they should be the ones who have all the skills required to convince others to buy products and services? In other words they are motivators to others to do something, so why should they having problems selling? Rest assured, the need to motivate is ever present in all we do.

The answer to having these problems is that some time or another “the steam” just gets fizzled out even from the best of us. And, the absence of this sales “steam” would require some rejuvenation by some other means.

So, how do we go about rejuvenating this “new head of steam” to bring up motivation levels? We need to motivate, motivate one another to be the best we can be. In this case the problem is attacked this way.

The traditional way is to hire another specialist in human behavior studies, a psychologist perhaps, and hold a series of seminars and “focus groups” sessions. Since this a done with budget constraints in mind, the employee -sales associate etc., is trained to a point that makes him ready to produce enough sales to boost revenues in his company. It is a self interest method to the company’s benefit for the most part.

But, true motivation, for the long term benefit of the person is not achieved through seminars and focus groups but rather in a more comprehensive way that involves the person’s whole self.

Abraham Maslow, an American psychologist said it best when he indicated that it is better to develop a person’s basic potential rather than using other “cookie cutter” methods to motivate him. More long term benefits can accrue this way for the person.

This idea was developed into a theory called: “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.” It is a five tier model, demonstrated by an equilateral triangle. The bottom tier begins with satisfying basic human needs -food, water, shelter etc., and as these needs are met he progresses to a higher level tier until he reaches a level of “self actualization,” the highest level, the level of enlightenment.

Deficiency, in needs not satisfied, in any of these Tiers will result in loss of motivation. In fact, Maslow’s, first four needs are viewed as deficiency needs. In other words, Motivation stops working once these needs are satisfied. But, it is the self actualization level that drives us throughout our entire lives to achieve more… So, if a business provides a setting for each employee to achieve more, the company as well as the employee will be drive to be the best there is.

But, self actualization is something you never can realize fully some would argue. It requires constant effort on our part to be our best and to achieve our highest potential in life. Yet another thought is that self actualization is goal specific. This means that once the goal set is achieved, as human nature is, we will strive to achieve another higher goal -so we are constantly battling with this “self actualization’ concept. High achievers find this a very exciting level.

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But again, this is not the whole picture. There is more to it than just this.
The other thought is to look at your whole self. Once you address the whole self, more can be achieve and will be more meaningful. As the theory says:” The whole a greater than the sum of its parts”. To learn about the entire process of motivation and more–from the ground up involving your entire self, follow the link in my bio-box below. You will be amazed at the number of things you can do to motivate your self to achieve anything you want in life. So, in essence, we need to motivate one another to become the best in our lives.

Developing Intimacy

Jennie Gandhi asked:

The word motivation is used to describe the reason why a person engages in a certain form of behaviour. According to Geen “motivation refers to the initiation, direction, intensity and persistence of human behaviour”. Motivation can also be described with words like – stimulus and incentive. Simply put motivation is the reason or reasons for an individual to behave in a certain way.

Motivation has been variously studies in psychological and neuropsychological studies to understand human conduct. It is always desirable to motivate a child towards his well- being, in an intelligent way. The three instincts of sex, preservation and the need to be social; dominates the life of human beings. It is important to acknowledge the fact that children also look for personal gains in what they do. The same can be healthily channalized through right motivation.

A teacher’s guide called “the Master Teacher” has listed nine motivators for healthy growth in children. These are – Love, personal gain, imitation, pleasure, security, the need to avoid fear, the need to experience new things and convenience or the tendency to do things which are simple and easy.

From the above, one can easily see, that it is best to motivate children towards things which will make them feel good about themselves. These are also the things we want them to do.

The age old reward and punishment strategy of motivating children is actually short lived and makes then greedy and fearful. Powerful motivators are always emotional in nature. The focus has to be on the real long term needs of the child. While doing the assigned task the child should feel that he is gaining from it personally.

Self enhancement or boosting of self esteem can be a very powerful motivating factor to make children behave in a certain way. Thus praise and appreciation can be very good motivators. Being like others makes them feel accepted and comfortable. Making them feel that doing something will make them like everyone or like some one who they admire, can be a very good motivator. Providing variety of experience and stimulus in the fun way can be excellent triggers to get little ones to work.

The new age fun way of learning, is based on this theory, as pleasure is the greatest motivator for human beings to perform. It is important to think of all the above listed inducements, to work in a creative manner with children.

The Forgotten Laws

Matt Hick asked:

Our self-esteem is the internal knowledge that we are capable of handling anything that life throws at us. Self-esteem is a feeling of self-worth and an understanding that we are capable human beings that are strong and resilient. People with a high level of self esteem are confident in their abilities; handle stress and problems well and are able to hold their heads up high and feel good about them even when they screw up.

People with low self-esteem are the complete opposite. They often sport a negative outlook on life and themselves; tend to fear new experiences because they lack the feeling that they can accomplish or handle anything outside of their normal routine; use a lot of energy to maintain a false positive image of themselves; and tend to worry excessively and be overly sensitive to criticism,

Our self-esteem is how we feel about our abilities and ourselves. It can have a drastic effect on our motivations, attitudes and behaviors with those around us. It built from an early age), often toddler hood, when a baby tries something new like standing or walking and either succeeds or fails.

It really doesn’t matter as much whether the child continually succeeds as it does how the people around the react to them. A child who manages to do everything right the first time, but who is not praised for their accomplishments or are belittled in some way may grow to have a very low self esteem; while a child who rarely succeeds but is praised for their effort may have a high level of self esteem.

This is an important fact for parents to remember when dealing with children of all ages. Healthy self-esteem is reached when the right balance is attained between the child’s ability and the parent’s interaction.

Our self-esteem can fluctuate as we grow and experience new hurdles in life. Teenagers are more apt to suffer low self-esteem as they struggles to handle changes in their bodies, world and even personality. This is a time when these young adults are struggling to figure out if they are capable enough to handle what life will throw at them in the future.

Adults may experience bouts of low self-esteem when faced with unexpected obstacles or hurdles they don’t know how to handle. New parenthood is a common time for adults to find themselves questioning their abilities as caregivers. The goal here is admit that you are finding a new situation more challenging than you can handle; accept your limitations; and ask for help.

Those with too much self esteem can become arrogant, believing that their way is the only way and that everything they do is perfect, while those who suffer low self esteem may find it difficult to conquer new challenges and find themselves stuck in unhappy jobs and relationships because they lack the courage and strength to move on to something better.

Finding the right balance is essential to becoming a well-rounded person who feels good about themselves, their abilities and exudes the power to succeed in every aspect of their lives.

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Peter Murphy asked:

Everyone can use some self esteem tips every now and then. Self esteem is more than self confidence. It is how we assess ourselves. There are occasions when confident people are actually low on self esteem. If confidence is just an ingredient, what then is self esteem?

It is how we feel, our attitude toward ourselves, our self concept. A person who has good self esteem accepts himself for who he is, imperfect yet a unique one-of-a-kind type of person who is capable of loving and being loved. In other words, a person with good self esteem can live life to the fullest. Here are helpful self esteem tips we could follow.

1. Always start the day right. Each morning you wake up, remind yourself that you are a worthy, wonderful, valuable individual. You deserve to live up to your potential and embrace the wonderful person that is in you.

2. Remember that you are here on earth for a purpose. It does not matter how great or small it is, it makes us important in this world. Know that purpose and do it.

3. Think positive. Don’t let undue criticism affect you. Know the naturally supportive people in your life. They are the best people to be around with. As much as possible, avoid negative vibes, they are weights that will pull you down.

4. Set goals that are realistic and follow through them. It is a great way to build your self confidence and self esteem.

5. Compliment yourself everyday. Keep a record of your everyday achievements or just anything good you have done for the day. This will make you realize the many good qualities you have. It will improve your self worth.

6. Deal with the blues. We all have our ups and downs. It is not bad to have them once in a while – we are only human beings with emotions. But do not stay down there too long. Take control of the bad feelings. Quick shifting is a good exercise. Think of positive happy moments you have had and let this take over the momentary bad episode.

7. Consciously tell yourself that you are a likeable person. However, if you want to have acceptance from other people, you must be able to tell yourself that you are going to like them as well. In everything you do, you can be almost 100% sure that the vibes you send out will come back to you. So do not be afraid, make the first move of getting to know people and accept them as they are. Boost their self esteem and, in the process, they will boost yours.

8. Know yourself. Realistically acknowledge your strength and limitations. However, it is not a bad idea to try to move an inch further from what you acknowledge as your limitations. Always give yourself room for improvement. The ability to assess ourselves accurately is about knowing ourselves and accepting ourselves as a valuable individual.

9. Learn something new each day. Keep abreast with the latest in the news and current events. This will help you get along with the people around you.

10. Include humor in your everyday life. Make smiles and laughter happen, it is contagious.

Real self esteem is something that comes from deep down, consciously or unconsciously. Self confidence comes from accepting your imperfections, limitations and things that cannot be changed. Know that you are precious because you are a creation by God.

All talk or written words are useless if we do not realize that fact. Your failures in the past belong to the past. No one on earth knows what tomorrow will bring. However, today is a gift – that is why it is called the present, so savor it. Once you come to practice these self esteem tips, you will find yourself enjoying life to the fullest.

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Terry Glass…Teenagers and Self Esteem:

There are many articles available that discuss low self esteem in teenage girls, self worth and self confidence. The reason why is because the teenage girl often has feelings of low self worth. Self worth is how the teenager looks upon themselves, how they see themselves and what confidence level they believe they have. This really is self judgmental when a teenage girl looks at her life and then makes a decision of who she feels she is or who she has become.

An example of this is the teenage girl judging her self worth as feeling she is ugly, totally un-attractive, is useless, has no confidence at all and is not that smart. But in reality the teenage girl herself is not really looked upon by others to be of low self worth exhibiting these qualities, it is just what is in the teenagers mind and how they think of themselves.

None of these attributes cannot be addressed and remedied with a few simple techniques. One such technique is activities about building self-worth, improve self-confidence and improving self-esteem for teenage girls.

One simple activity and the most tried and proven activity for a teenage girl is to get there favorite magazine and a large poster size piece of cardboard. With this at hand look through the magazine firstly for words of encouragement, such as, a headline that boldly states “You Can Do It” or “The Real You”, “Success” and “You are Beautiful”.

Set your headings up on your poster in your own artistic way. Make it look great. Then go through the magazine and cut out the pictures that inspire you, beautiful models, landscapes, cars, clothes, shoes and boys. Place this on your poster and you will soon find you will fill the poster up.

We will call this poster your Inspirational Poster. One you look at each day, read the headlines you have pasted to the poster and they will become your daily affirmations. Look at the pictures and realize that you are just as good looking and beautiful as they are.

To build self-esteem activities for teenage girls that build confidence, low self-esteem and self worth then you need an activity the teenage girl can relate too and inspire too, realizing anything is possible, its just all about the way you look at the quality and values in your life.

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As a writer and editor for a self-improvement online store, I come across all kinds of interesting methods for improving personal happiness and tackling low esteem. Some are a little kooky and out-there and some, like the self-esteem journal, are pure common sense and undeniably effective. The philosopher and spiritual writer, James Allen, believed that an individual’s personal circumstances were fully within his or her control, because those circumstances, far from being the result of external factors acting upon the individual, were actually created by that individual’s own thoughts. Thoughts, Allen tells us in his timeless classic (and highly recommended) ‘As a Man Thinketh’ crystallise into habits, and those habits solidify into circumstances. If we can capture our thoughts, observe them, then change them, we can alter our circumstances very much for the better. Nowhere is this more true than in the case of low esteem, a condition that has its roots firmly embedded in the thoughts of the sufferer. This is where the self-esteem journal comes into play. Some recommend that the self-esteem journal be used for capturing and exploring those moments when the sufferer of low esteem feels at a low-ebb. While there are undeniable benefits to this, there is a danger that one is simply looking at the impact of low esteem and not at the root causes, focussing on the smoke and ignoring the fire. Instead, I would recommend using the journal before any obvious low esteem related incidents occur. Simply capture your thoughts as they emerge whenever you have the chance. Write them down in your self-esteem journal. And remember, you’re not interrogating yourself, you’re observing yourself. In other words, don’t ask yourself ‘What am I thinking?’, instead, write down what you’ve just thought. At the end of each day, go through all the thoughts you’ve jotted down in your self-esteem journal. Highlight the negative ones. You’re not necessarily looking for the cause of your low esteem; you’re just interested in capturing harmful thoughts. In a relatively short time, you will become very familiar with your negative thoughts and you will be able to recognise them as they emerge. You can then stop them in their tracks and choose to think something else, something more positive which won’t feed your low esteem’s appetite for negativity. For example, if shortly after waking, your first nebulous thought is something along the lines of ‘Oh God, another day, another dollar’, block it and instead think, ‘I wonder if something wonderful will happen to me today’. In your self-esteem journal, write down next to each negative thought, a corresponding positive thought. Practice, until it becomes second nature to replace one thought with another. Of course, things are rarely as simple as that, and everyone is different. But there is something undeniably persuasive about capturing your thoughts as they emerge, writing them down in your self-esteem journal, making sense of them and then, most importantly of all, choosing to do something about them, taking control of the very seeds that can either erupt as the choking weeds of low esteem or bloom as beautiful flowers of positivity and possibility. Read Akashic Records Is Designed To Help You See Both The Past And The Future.

Dean Ryan Martin: what is poor self esteem 

Self-esteem is an important aspect of life. It is like a vessel that keeps you going on with the ups and downs of life. To tell you the truth, it is very impossible to have a meaningful life without boosting the level of your self-esteem.

How will you know if you are suffering from poor self-esteem? Before I will answer that question, let me define what is self-esteem.

Basically, self-esteem refers to the value of respect you award to yourself. This is also about your feelings and opinions on how you will evaluate yourself in the world. In fact, your self-esteem comes in several levels. It might be high, healthy, low or drastically low.

Now, if you don’t value yourself that much and you tend to patronize your abilities, there’s no need for you to doubt that you tend to have a poor self-esteem. Having a poor self-esteem is as similar as drinking a poison. You are living in a topsy-turvy world and whatever you do, you feel worthless.

Some indications of poor self-esteem:

1) Feeling of not being cherished and respected by anyone
2) Feeling of extreme jealousy
3) Sense of dependence on other for everything
4) Loss of decision making abilities
5) Displaying excessive anger
6) Always under the pressure to over achieve
7) Need for everything to be always nothing less than perfect
Worrying too much
9) Shying away from trying out anything new, especially from taking any sort of risks
10) Frustration
11) Feeling of helplessness at not being able to understand or describe feelings
12) Poor performance at workplace or school

The Cause of Poor Self-esteem

What’s the cause of having a poor self-esteem? Is it fair to blame yourself if you have a crack self-esteem?

In some cases, self-esteem is not only about you but is about everything that surrounds you. If your family is criticizing you for every little mistake you do, then you begin to question several whats and whys. For this reason, you will grow as a confused and submissive child with a shattered self-esteem.

Truth is, the home is the place where one’s own self-esteem is developed. The type of family you have affects the level of your self-esteem. So, if you think you are suffering from poor self-esteem, begin analyzing what kind of family background you have. Try studying the personality of your dad, your mom and your siblings and understand their strengths and their weaknesses. If you will do this, you’ll seem to know why your self-esteem is low.

Another huge factor that affect the level of your self-esteem is your society. Your social environment refers to the kind of friends you have, the type of work you are into, what religion you are in, etc.

As what many experts say, the kind of environment you have is what you’ll become. Whether you’ll like it or not, there are good and bad things around you and you will be influenced to do things beyond your control. Sadly, when you have a poor self-esteem, you are easily swayed away from what you believe is right. For instance, if you have friends and they are offering you prohibited drugs, it’s so hard to say no probably because you can no longer generate good decisions for yourself.

Balancing Your Self-esteem

There is no 100% good self-esteem but you can always balance it. Your self-esteem is like a seesaw. It doesn’t mean that if you have a healthy self-esteem, you will be invincible from the frustrations of life.

When your self-esteem is low or poor, your sense of sensitivity is high. That means, you will become paranoid. You will regularly hear negative voices in your mind, making you feel lonely and vulnerable.

On the other hand, when you have a high self-esteem, your sense of sensitivity might be low. In this case, you will act as if you’re the perfect person in the world. You will be described as insensitive, tactless and conceited.

Having a balance self-esteem is the most important thing of all. Life must be 50-50 in all forms. When you have low self-esteem, you need to boost it but not to a point that you become overbearing.

If you think you have a high self-esteem, that’s a good thing but see to it you are not stepping on other’s toes. Sometimes, having a high self-esteem results to complacency and stress.

How To Boost Your Self-esteem?

Boosting one’s own self-esteem is not easy. It’s a process and you need to be consistent in it. Improving one’s own self-esteem can depend on the type of physical appearance you have. It’s proven that having a good physique results to healthy self-esteem. But if you are healthy but you still have poor self-esteem, something might be wrong with your emotional upbringing.

In this case, you need to change the way you think. The human mind is very powerful. It can play tricks on you and puts your self-esteem at risk. As what Rick Warren wrote in his phenomenal book entitled The Purpose Driven Life, “THE WAY YOU THINK DETERMINES THE WAY YOU FEEL AND THE WAY YOU FEEL INFLUENCES THE WAY YOU ACT.”

See the point? The human mind is always connected with the emotions and deeds. Everything starts in the mind and if you will learn how to control the way you think, the level of your self-esteem will be fine.

In addition to that, there are many self-esteem test online. Feel free to answer them. If you want detailed explanation about your result, you can always consult registered psychologist near you.

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